Some really bad news

[drfchound]

A friend of mine too.

Best wishes for a recovery Dave.
Happy New Year for 2021, it has to be better than 2020 has been.

[godlike1]

A terrible way to end the year for dave and his family. I've always enjoyed some of his insights on the club (did he do the match day announcements one season?) along with the reading the various debates we all get into on the forum. All I can do is offer best wishes

[LincsRover]

Best wishes vicar, we don’t always agree on this forum but it would be a hell of a lot duller without you! Thoughts are with you and I hope you beat the b*st*rd! 

[PDX_Rover]

Keep fighting. You’ve got positive thoughts and support right here.

[CoppsChop]

Best wishes Dave.

[belton rover]

All the best to you Vicar.

[NickDRFC]

Best of luck to you, vicar.

[SydneyRover]

Sorry to here this news all the best Vicar from afar.

[wilts rover]

Terrible news. My thoughts are with you and your family Vicar - if anyone can fight it you can.

[roversdude]

Vicar that’s terrible news thoughts are with you

[Bristol Red Rover]

One of the many solid members of our community Vicar, wishing you all the best in strength and spirit with this horrible illness

[les@donr]

Dave you've got a lot of friends here rooting for you. Best wishes.

[Donnywolf]

As above Vicar - count me in as a rooter. Best wishes Wolfie

[Welling Rover]

Best wishes Vicar
Keep fighting Dave

[the vicar]

Hello can I say what a great lot on here in a time of need, I have been encouraged by all your messages so thank you from the bottom of my heart. I has now given me the courage to fight on so head is what they said, and what I plan to do.  I had pain in my upper tummy so I went to the doctor, he immediately he sent a email to DRI, I waited and waited for 6 weeks then I received a phone call asking me to go for a colonoscopy, I had that then waited again  but3 weeks later I heard nothing, so I rang them up and they said oh yes we have seen that one can I come in in 2 weeks, which if it was cancer was excessive as you have to work very quickly.  I went for an MRI scan on the 24th of December, then I got a call to co to the private hospital at DRI and the guy I saw did not seem to care and a bit brash he ended up telling me that I had a cancer of my pancreas, I asked if they can operate he said in a Sturn voice NO, when I asked why he said it was to near a blood vessel, I asked surely there is something to do, he replied WHAT CAN WE DO, so I said something is better than nothing.  As this went on he said he will send the scan to Sheffield cancer department to see if they can suggest anything so I am waiting to see what they say. 
I have now through all your encouragement to fight this all the way, I am now going to ask them to take away as much of it as they can then give me whatever to try and kill of this flocking ugly thing, surly this or anything is BETTER than nothing. Thank you for reading my experience xxx

[turnbull for england]

Make them have it, a mate of mine was given similar news and only one outcome based on a scan,  about 2 years ago the specialist he wasn't going to bother seeing  saw another outcome and whilst it's not a bed of roses he's just enjoyed another Christmas, all the very best for th future

[goalkick]

Heartbreaking that someone can treat you like that.the very best to you and your family.

[the vicar]

Thanks mate I will fight to the end

[Lesonthewest]

Don't know you personally Vicar but my thoughts are with you, wishing you all the very best.

[hoolahoop]

Dave I'm so sorry about your latest
news. It's terrible to hear a mate , and a fellow Rovers fan as distraught as you were on the phone a couple of days ago.

I told you then that you would have a support network around you , like no other, from the start and that would help you deal with this terrible prognosis.
As you can see there is huge support for you and your family such as I have enjoyed and gained strength from on not 1 but 3 occasions. Indeed you yourself kept this forum fully upto date when I was fighting Covid  in DRI. It's quite unbelieveable how much strength and mental support you can get just from reading again and again how much you are valued, loved, would be missed etc. from both friends and strangers.
This has always been a forum where all opinions, all troubles can be shared without fear or favour and  that's what we will need to be to help get you through this.
Day or night , someone will be here or on the end of a telephone to give you independent advice and encouragement just when you need it .
I know as I and many others have benefitted from just that throughout the years.
Take care Davo and more than that ...STAY IN TOUCH.
   

[big fat yorkshire pudding]

Heartbreaking that someone can treat you like that.the very best to you and your family.

I think this sums it up for me.  It's not hard to show empathy.  Keep fighting at it and push them to do everything you can.

[selby]

  Don't let it go Dave, put as much pressure on the people responsible for dereliction of duty and the not bothered brigade as possible.
  If there is a chance make sure they try to take it. If you are not happy make a diary of dates and times and the names of the people responsible and contact your MP and medical authorities.

[the vicar]

Thanks Brian mate

[hoolahoop]

  Don't let it go Dave, put as much pressure on the people responsible for dereliction of duty and the not bothered brigade as possible.
  If there is a chance make sure they try to take it. If you are not happy make a diary of dates and times and the names of the people responsible and contact your MP and medical authorities.

Excellent advice selby - make them own your problem too and as has been said, earlier in the thread, there is NO EXCUSE for a lack of empathy with both you and your wife when receiving such devastating news.
Wait to see what the Sheffield oncologists have to say  and if necessary seek further reviews of your case .
It's so important to keep any times and dates and with whom properly you might need to refer to them at some future date .
Most of all don't give up but then I know you of all people to be a fighter and that's what you will need to be going forward.

[Ldr]

Heartbreaking that someone can treat you like that.the very best to you and your family.

I think this sums it up for me.  It's not hard to show empathy.  Keep fighting at it and push them to do everything you can.

Scary that the attitude there has not changed in 20 years, sounds exactly the same as when my mum was diagnosed the same. Keep fighting Vicar and if you can, try and get your GP to refer you to NCCC in Newcastle (assuming you have transport) they are excellent

[Retdon1]

All the best Dave. Keep fighting. Keep phoning and hassling them and eventually you will get someone who will be able to do something to help you fight this awful disease.

[wilts rover]

You have started off the right way Vicar. As I said above, if anyone can fight this off you can.

[Alickismyhero]

Thanks Brian mate

Dave,
We had a similar problem when my wife had a biopsy 12 years ago over the Christmas period. It was 9 weeks before we got the result was cancer. A second operation was required by the Oncologist which showed she was still producing cancer cells and was directed on to chemo. Average life expectancy was 4 to 5 years so you can see there can be a good result with luck.
On the whole I was satisfied with NHS and the service they gave but unfortunately she is still a Liverpool supporter first and a Rover second.
My advice Dave is keep asking questions when you have doubt, don't be shy, somehow I know you will.
Best of luck pal

One last comment. My brother had a biopsy of his prostate. He was told he had cancer and the following week he had a call from the hospital saying that in fact he never had cancer. It doesn't inspire you with confidence.

[the vicar]

They said it was a small shadow then 4 weeks later it was the size of a lemon

[MachoMadness]

All the best to you vicar. I don't know the ins and outs of the condition but I'm sure you'll end up in good hands and they'll do what they can for you.